A Surprising Way To Tell If Someone Is Attracted To You

Both sexes unconsciously do the same thing when they meet someone they are attracted to.

Both sexes unconsciously do the same thing when they meet someone they are attracted to.

Both men and women unconsciously lower their voices when they are attracted to someone, research finds.

Men, in particular, keep their voices low to indicate their interest.

Surprisingly, women also lower their voices when speaking to the most attractive men.

For the study, 30 speed daters met in a café, half men, half women.

The researchers monitored voice pitch and asked everyone who they were attracted to.

The study’s authors explain that men lowered their voice when attracted to a woman:

“…men lowered the minimum pitch of their voices when interacting with women who were overall highly desired by other men.

Men also lowered their mean voice pitch on dates with women they selected as potential mates, particularly those who indicated a mutual preference (matches).

Women also lowered their voice when attracted to a man:

“…although women spoke with a higher and more variable voice pitch toward men they selected as potential mates, women lowered both voice pitch parameters toward men who were most desired by other women and whom they also personally preferred.”

Women, though, were more discerning in their choice: only lowering their voice for the most attractive men.

The study was published in the journal The Royal Society Proceedings B (Pisanski et al., 2018).

The Fake News Effect: How People Develop More Extreme Views (M)

The unsettling truth about how political biases shape what news people choose to believe.

The unsettling truth about how political biases shape what news people choose to believe.

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How Many Hours It Really Takes To Make A Close Friend (M)

Most people complain that a lack of time is the main barrier to making new friends — but how much is really needed?

Most people complain that a lack of time is the main barrier to making new friends -- but how much is really needed?

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This Look Makes You Instantly Trustworthy To Others

The facial features that people rate as more trustworthy might surprise you.

The facial features that people rate as more trustworthy might surprise you.

While people often expect the most attractive people to inspire the most trust in others, this isn’t the case.

Average-looking faces are considered most trustworthy, psychological research finds.

The reason may be down to the ‘typicality’ of an average-looking face.

Dr Carmel Sofer, who led the research, said:

“Face typicality likely indicates familiarity and cultural affiliation — as such, these findings have important implications for understanding social perception, including cross-cultural perceptions and interactions.”

As people’s faces get more distinctive — irrespective of whether it is more or less attractive — it gets less trustworthy.

Dr Sofer said:

“Although face typicality did not matter for attractiveness judgments, it mattered a great deal for trustworthiness judgments.

This effect may have been overlooked, because trustworthiness and attractiveness judgments are generally highly correlated in research.”

The study’s authors write:

“By showing the influence of face typicality on perceived trustworthiness, our findings cast a new light on how face typicality influences social perception.

They highlight the social meaning of the typical face because trustworthiness judgments approximate the general evaluation of faces.”

Dr Sofer said:

“We are interested in how people judge face trustworthiness when visiting other countries and how the locals perceive the visitors.

In addition, we plan to study how face typicality influences trustworthiness judgments, when other factors such as emotional expressions are present.”

The study was published in the journal Psychological Science (Sofer et al., 2014).

The 2 Powerful Bonds That Unite All Of Humanity — Could They Change The World? (M)

The future of humanity depends on dissolving barriers to solve global challenges.

The future of humanity depends on dissolving barriers to solve global challenges.

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The Simplest Way To Make People Like You Instantly

People felt emotionally closer to strangers who did this.

People felt emotionally closer to strangers who did this.

Smiling is one of the best ways to make people instantly like you, research reveals.

However, a smile needs to be real: what psychologists call a ‘Duchenne smile’.

People are highly tuned to the Duchenne smile, which involves upturned lips and crinkly eyes.

Fake smiles are relatively easy to spot and involve only the mouth and not the eyes.

A genuine smile is a strong sign of cooperation and affiliation.

People are generally more aware of positive emotions in other people than negative.

A smile makes people feel emotionally closer to strangers.

Dr Belinda Campos, who led the research, said:

“Our findings provide new evidence of the significance of positive emotions in social settings and highlight the role that positive emotions display in the development of new social connections.

People are highly attuned to the positive emotions of others and can be more attuned to others’ positive emotions than negative emotions.”

For the study, participants watched a video of people interacting and showing both positive and negative emotions.

The results showed that positive emotions are particularly powerful in drawing strangers together.

People felt emotionally closer to strangers who showed positive emotions.

The positive emotion that was particularly attractive was awe.

The study was published in the journal Motivation and Emotion (Campos et al., 2015).

These Forbidden Words Soothe Embarrassment And Rejection

Certain words can reduce both social pain and physical pain.

Certain words can reduce both social pain and physical pain.

Swearing can help to relieve hurt feelings and an aching heart, research has found.

Swearing aloud helps to quickly reduce various types of ‘social distress’ such as being socially excluded.

The experiment was carried out to test ‘Pain Overlap Theory’.

This is the idea that physical pain is processed in a similar way by the brain as social pain, the kind you get from being rejected or embarrassed.

Dr Michael Philipp, the study’s first author, explained the results:

“The results suggest that socially distressed participants who swore out loud experienced less social pain than those who did not.

Previous research suggests that social stressors, like rejection and ostracism, not only feel painful but also increase peoples’ sensitivity to physical pain.

Pain Overlap Theory suggests that social distress feels painful because both social and physical pain is biologically coupled.

Pain overlap theory predicts that anything affecting physical pain should have similar effects on social pain.”

In the study some people shouted out swear words in response to social pain.

Others shouted out non-swear words.

Swearing reduced the social pain and also reduced people’s sensitivity to physical pain.

This suggests that physical and social pain are related, as the theory suggests.

It means the hurt you feel when someone gives you the silent treatment is, in some sense, similar to that caused by banging your thumb with a hammer.

Dr Philipp said:

“There is still speculation about why swearing aloud has the effect it does on physical pain and social pain.

What’s clear is that swearing is not a completely maladaptive reaction to a sore thumb or a broken heart.”

Dr Philipp was also quick to warn that swearing all the time reduces its power.

So save it up for when you really need it.

The study was published in the European Journal of Social Psychology (Phillip et al., 2017).

This Is How Long Social Pressure Really Lasts (M)

What group influence is doing to you and how long until you reclaim your independence.

What group influence is doing to you and how long until you reclaim your independence.

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The Dark Side Of Mimicking People’s Body Language To Gain Rapport (M)

Why therapists could have to rethink the strategy of mimicking body language in sessions.

Why therapists could have to rethink the strategy of mimicking body language in sessions.

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Peer Pressure Isn’t Just For Teens: How Adults Fall Victim Too (M)

Aging may bring wisdom, but it doesn’t always bring resistance to peer pressure.

Aging may bring wisdom, but it doesn't always bring resistance to peer pressure.

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