The Simplest Way To Make People Like You Instantly

People felt emotionally closer to strangers who did this.

People felt emotionally closer to strangers who did this.

Smiling is one of the best ways to make people instantly like you, research reveals.

However, a smile needs to be real: what psychologists call a ‘Duchenne smile’.

People are highly tuned to the Duchenne smile, which involves upturned lips and crinkly eyes.

Fake smiles are relatively easy to spot and involve only the mouth and not the eyes.

A genuine smile is a strong sign of cooperation and affiliation.

People are generally more aware of positive emotions in other people than negative.

A smile makes people feel emotionally closer to strangers.

Dr Belinda Campos, who led the research, said:

“Our findings provide new evidence of the significance of positive emotions in social settings and highlight the role that positive emotions display in the development of new social connections.

People are highly attuned to the positive emotions of others and can be more attuned to others’ positive emotions than negative emotions.”

For the study, participants watched a video of people interacting and showing both positive and negative emotions.

The results showed that positive emotions are particularly powerful in drawing strangers together.

People felt emotionally closer to strangers who showed positive emotions.

The positive emotion that was particularly attractive was awe.

The study was published in the journal Motivation and Emotion (Campos et al., 2015).

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Study tested the effects of poor sleep on two consecutive nights.

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How Your Life’s Purpose Can Make You More Attractive (M)

Could a clear sense of direction in life make you more appealing to potential partners?

Could a clear sense of direction in life make you more appealing to potential partners?

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This Personality Trait Makes Some People Look More Attractive

How less attractive men can make themselves stand out from the crowd.

How less attractive men can make themselves stand out from the crowd.

Plain-looking men can boost their attractiveness to women by being creative, research finds.

The same boost in attractiveness, strangely, does not apply to plain-looking women.

In fact, for less attractive women, creativity could actually be a dating handicap.

Dr Christopher Watkins, the study’s author, said:

“Creative women with less attractive faces seem to be perhaps penalised in some way.”

The boost for average-looking men, though, was substantial, said Dr Watkins:

“Creative guys with less attractive faces were almost identical in attractiveness to really good looking guys who were not as creative.”

Top of the pile, naturally, were men who were both good-looking and creative.

The importance of displaying creativity may be partly that imagination suggests intelligence.

Dr Watkins said:

“Women on average are a more selective sex when it comes to choosing romantic partners.

Creativity is thought to be a signal that an individual can invest time and effort into a particular task or can see things in novel ways that may be useful for survival.”

Unfortunately, those who are creative may not have a chance to show it in the modern, superficial world of online dating.

Dr Watkins said:

“Certain platforms that we have now for dating might not be favourable for assessing people on more complex attributes.”

Creativity is not just attractive in a dating context, but also in friendships, the study found.

Creativity looks good

Compare this study with another piece of attraction research testing whether personality can beat looks:

“Women say they prefer the personality traits of friendliness and respectfulness, but new research reveals it’s really all about looks.

When tested, women pick men who are physically attractive over those with better personality traits.

Younger women, in particular, pay little attention to whether men are trustworthy, respectful and honest — just whether they are fit.

[…]

The results revealed that personality made little difference when men were unattractive.

Perhaps, though, creativity can do the trick in place of being friendly and respectful.

The study was published in the journal Royal Society Open Science (Watkins, 2017).

The #1 Trait That Is More Attractive Than Looks

The top trait women find attractive in men.

The top trait women find attractive in men.

Helping others with no thought for yourself is more attractive than good looks for a long-term relationship.

Women rated an average-looking man giving money to a homeless person as more attractive than a better looking man who walked right past, the researchers found.

The study suggests that good looks are not everything in the dating game, especially when it comes to long-term relationships.

When women were asked about short-term relationships, though, the research revealed a weird twist — being altruistic was then a liability.

For short-term relationships women preferred a man who was not altruistic.

This could be related to the fact that darker personality traits, such as narcissism and psychopathy can make men more attractive in the short-term.

Clearly these type of men are not going around rescuing kittens from trees.

For the study women were shown pictures of two different men — one was more attractive than the other.

They then read different scenarios describing how each man was behaving — sometimes altruistically, sometimes not.

Being both altruistic and attractive was the mother lode, the researchers explained:

“The preference for altruistic men was also further influenced by their physical attractiveness, such that the increase in desirability of men as attractiveness increased was significantly greater when they were also altruistic.

This suggests that altruism can have an additive effect to other mate choice qualities (in this case, physical attractiveness), such that possessing both qualities has a greater effect on a man’s desirability than just a combination of their individual desirability.”

For short-term relationships, though, the better looking man was the preferred choice for women, no matter what he was pictured doing.

If you had to choose between being selfless or good-looking, then this study suggests that a generous and charitable is more attractive for long-term relationships.

The study was published in the journal Evolutionary Psychology (Farrelly et al., 2016).

These 5 Body Language Signals Are True Signs Of Attraction

Many supposed signs of attraction were not linked to liking, the extensive research found.

Many supposed signs of attraction were not linked to liking, the extensive research found.

There are only five main body language signals that reliably indicate people like each other, research finds.

These are:

  1. making eye contact,
  2. smiling,
  3. initiating conversation,
  4. laughing,
  5. and maintaining physical proximity.

These are all nonverbal signs that people are developing trust and rapport with each other.

Many supposed signs of attraction were not linked to liking, the extensive research found.

These included:

  • flipping hair,
  • using gestures,
  • tilting the head,
  • lifting the eyebrows,
  • primping clothes,
  • maintaining open body posture,
  • or leaning in.

Some of these might come as a surprise since many articles in the media frequently link them to liking.

People may still perform these gestures when they like you, but they are not reliably related to attraction, the study found.

Dr R. Matthew Montoya, the study’s first author, said:

“There is a specific suite of behaviors associated with liking, and this same set of behaviors can be found in cultures from around the world.”

The conclusions come from a meta-analysis, which brought together the results of 54 different studies.

These all looked at how much someone likes another person and how they act towards them.

It included descriptions from hundreds of different cultures.

The results are not just relevant for romantic attraction, but for any kinds of human liking, Dr Montoya said:

“Whether we engage in these behaviors has little or nothing to do with romantic desires.

These behaviors apply when doctors interact with their patients, parents interact with their kids, or when salespeople talk to their customers.”

Acting in these ways is about increasing trust, Dr Montoya said:

“When we like someone, we act in ways to get them to trust us.

From this perspective, we engage in these behaviors to increase the degree of overlap, interdependence, and commitment to an agreement.”

The study was published in the journal Psychological Bulletin (Montoya et al., 2018).

This Physical Feature Makes Men More Attractive

The feature is also linked to higher genetic fitness.

The feature is also linked to higher genetic fitness.

Longer legs make a man more attractive to women, research finds.

It’s not just about being taller, though.

Instead, it is about the ratio of leg to total height.

In other words, men with a slightly higher ratio of leg to body look more attractive to women.

The reason is that a slightly longer leg (in relation to the whole body) is a sign of genetic fitness.

For the research over 800 heterosexual women were shown a series of computer-generated images of men with slightly different leg and arm lengths.

While long arms weren’t much of a turn-on, the slightly longer leg was a winner.

The leg shouldn’t be excessively long, though, just a little bit more than normal.

Short legs are linked to heart disease, diabetes and dementia.

Very long legs are often linked to genetic problems.

The study’s authors explain their findings in evolutionary terms:

“From the perspective of evolutionary biology, attractiveness judgements reflect the biological fitness of a prospective mate (i.e. their ability to survive and reproduce in their environment), because a high-fitness mate is likely to be better able to provide resources, care, and protection, to be less likely to transmit harmful pathogens, and to pass on ‘good genes’ to the offspring.”

In case you want to check your own legs, the average leg-to-body ratio is 0.491.

The leg is measured from the hip to the ankle, then divide this by your height.

The magic number for the ‘perfect’ ratio is around 0.506.

The study was published in the journal Royal Society Open Science (Versluys et al., 2018).

The 2 Most Attractive Personality Traits

People rate these personality traits as most attractive.

People rate these personality traits as most attractive.

Being extraverted and having stable emotions are two of the most attractive personality traits, research finds.

Extraverts are generally outgoing, self-confident and cheerful and can also be impulsive, sensation-seekers.

Emotional stability is linked to being better at dealing with stress and minor frustrations.

People who are emotionally stable usually find it easier to control their urges and are mostly unselfconscious.

However, both personality traits may also explain the attraction of the ‘bad boy’ and ‘bad girl’.

Psychopaths and narcissists tend to be rated as being more extraverted and stable.

Nevertheless, both psychopaths and narcissists, despite their attractive qualities, can make terrible partners.

Psychopaths are very manipulative and empathise little, while narcissists are self-involved and can be highly disagreeable.

The study’s authors write:

“Women, particularly in respect of short-term mating, may be attracted to ‘bad boys’, possessing confidence, hard-headedness and an inclination to risk-take – all accurate descriptors of Dark Triad men; all attractive to women.”

Another explanation for the attractiveness of bad boys could be their superficial charm, the authors write:

“Women may be responding to DT men’s ability to ‘sell themselves’; a useful tactic in a co-evolutionary ‘arms race’ in which men convince women to pursue the former’s preferred sexual strategy.

This ability may derive from a ‘used-car dealer’ ability to charm and manipulate, and DT-associated traits such as assertiveness.

Men with a DT personality are undoubtedly well-placed to successfully implement such a strategy.”

The conclusions come from a study 128 women who judged the personality profiles of various men.

One was high in the ‘dark triad’ of personality factors.

The dark triad includes narcissists, psychopaths and Machiavellians.

The results showed that the profile high in the dark triad traits was consistently seen as more attractive.

The study was published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences (Carter et al., 2014).

2 Personality Traits That Make You More Physically Attractive

Beauty really is more than skin-deep, psychologists find.

These positive personality traits can make people  people look more attractive, psychologists find.

Positive personality traits — like helpfulness and honesty — make people appear physically more attractive, research finds.

Those displaying negative personality traits — like rudeness and unfairness — look physically less attractive to observers.

The finding is particularly strong for when women are evaluating men, since women place a little more emphasis on personality.

The finding helps justify those who say that ‘inner beauty’ is important.

Dr Gary W. Lewandowski, Jr., who led the research, said:

“Perceiving a person as having a desirable personality makes the person more suitable in general as a close relationship partner of any kind.”

Personality makes you attractive

For the study, participants viewed pictures of strangers and rated them for attractiveness.

Then they got some information about their personalities, and rated them again.

This mimics the way we evaluate people in real life.

First we just see them without known anything about their personality.

Then we adjust our view of them as we learn about their personality.

Those displaying positive personalities were deemed more attractive, the results showed.

It didn’t matter whether someone was in a relationship or not, or whether they were considering the person for a romantic relationship or not.

Dr Lewandowski said:

“This research provides a more positive alternative by reminding people that personality goes a long way toward determining your attractiveness; it can even change people’s impressions of how good looking you are.”

This study clearly shows that we can adjust our perception of someone’s physical attractiveness as we get more information about their personality.

The authors said that…

“…it demonstrates the substantial power of personality information, in that it is sufficient to overcome initial evaluations.”

The study was published in the journal Personal Relationships (Lewandowski et al., 2007).

The Most Attractive Facial Characteristics (M)

People looked for this quality in facial characteristics — giving it the highest ratings for attractiveness.

People looked for this quality in facial characteristics -- giving it the highest ratings for attractiveness.

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