Many social psychology studies show that people are naturally good.
We are prosocial creatures motivated to help each other out — whether they are friends, family or even strangers.
Most people will return lost wallets, intervene in fights and pay forward acts of kindness.
And helping others out makes us happier than focusing on ourselves.
Below are eight of my favourite modern social psychology studies showing just how good people really are.
Click the links for a fuller description of each study including the reference.
1. People are surprisingly honest
Seventy-two percent of people will report a lost wallet containing a large sum of money, a recent study finds.
Indeed, the more money is in the lost wallet, the more likely it is to be reported.
The findings suggest that many people are basically honest.
When asked, people say that the more money is in a wallet, the more it feels like stealing not to return it.
2. Bystanders will help 90% of the time
A study of real public fights caught on CCTV showed that bystanders intervened 90 percent of the time to help victims of violence.
The 219 fights included in the study had broken out on the streets of Amsterdam, Cape Town and Leicester (in the Netherlands, South Africa and UK, respectively).
Nine-out-of-ten times at least one person tried to intervene, sometimes more than one.
This strongly suggests that trying to help is the norm in public, rather than the exception.
The study contrasts with 60s research on bystander apathy.
3. We are naturally generous
People are surprisingly generous to each other — even to strangers.
They will try to help each other out, even to their own cost and even when their motivations do not align.
In fact, psychologists have found four motivators for people being generous to others:
- People who receive a kindness from another are motivated to repay it to that person.
- People who receive a kindness from another are motivated to ‘pay it forward’ to someone else.
- Someone who witnesses a kindness is motivated to be generous to a third person.
- People do good deeds when they can be observed by others who might reward them.
4. Children make us compassionate
The mere presence of children makes adults more generous and compassionate.
When children are around, adults are twice as likely to donate to a charity.
The effect seems to work whether adults are parents or non-parents, men or women, older or younger.
Even people who dislike children become more generous when they are around.
5. The brain craves social contact
The brain craves social contact when lonely in the same way it craves food when hungry.
After one day’s isolation, people’s brain activate in the same to seeing other people having fun together as it does to a plate of cheesy pasta.
People whose brains were most strongly affected by isolation were those who routinely had richer social lives.
6. Being nice is contagious
Acts of kindness can spread easily between people — just by observing someone else being generous.
They activate parts of the brain involved in motivating action and of social engagement.
In turn, we are also more likely to ‘pay it forward’.
Scientists call this the ‘moral elevation’ effect.
7. Helping others makes you happy
Being kind to others boosts mood and wellbeing more than being kind to yourself.
It may be partly because being kind to others helps nurture social relationships.
People tend to feel greater pride in themselves after doing a good deed for others than when they do a good deed for themselves.
8. Family is what motivates people
People around the world consistently rank their long-term relationships and family above seeking status, finding mates, preserving health, being part of a team or protecting themselves.
Those who focus more on their families and long-term relationships are generally happier with life, the researchers also found.