Every parent wants the best for their child.
Despite that, research suggests many are unknowingly engaging in harmful behaviours.
Sometimes the behaviours that feel most natural, loving or protective can work against children’s long-term psychological wellbeing.
From putting on a brave face and being protective to pushing them to achieve, here are 17 common parental behaviours that can ultimately backfire (updated July 2026).
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Author: Dr Jeremy Dean
Psychologist, Jeremy Dean, PhD is the founder and author of PsyBlog. He holds a doctorate in psychology from University College London and two other advanced degrees in psychology. He has been writing about scientific research on PsyBlog since 2004. View all posts by Dr Jeremy Dean