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Six Simple Signs Of A Narcissist

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One of the most commonly believed signs of a narcissist is a myth.

It is commonly believed that people who talk about themselves a lot reveal that they are narcissists.

However, while studies find many signs of being a narcissist, this is not one of them.

Narcissists do not use the pronouns “I” and “me” more often than anyone else.

In contrast, real signs of narcissism include acting like an extravert, talking loudly to draw attention to themselves and sometimes using more sexual language.

Narcissists are also very sensitive to criticism.

Any criticism will usually make them aggressive in response.

One of the easiest ways to spot a narcissist is simply to ask them directly.

It probably works so well because of the very nature of narcissism itself.

Another common sign of a narcissist is that they are disagreeable.

Disagreeable people tend to be tactless, cold and suspicious.

It might seem odd that people who are so self-focused, self-important and superior do not use the words “I” and “me” more often, but the finding is consistent.

Ms Angela Carey, the study’s first author, said:

“There is a widely assumed association between use of first-person singular pronouns, what we call I-talk, and narcissism, among laypeople and scientists despite the fact that the empirical support for this relation is surprisingly sparse and generally inconsistent.”

For the study, the researchers recruited over 4,800 people who were given personality tests and asked to engage in a communication task.

The results clearly showed that narcissists were no more likely to use first-person pronouns than anyone else.

Dr Matthias Mehl, study co-author, said:

“The most interesting finding is that the results did not vary much across two different countries, multiple labs, five different narcissism measures and 12 different samples.

We were surprised by how consistent of a near-null finding it was.”

The study was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (Carey et al., 2015).

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