Comments on: A Tale of Two Conversations (and Mrs Thatcher) http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/06/tale-of-two-conversations-and-mrs.php Understand your mind with the science of psychology - Mon, 04 May 2009 10:30:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Rodney http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/06/tale-of-two-conversations-and-mrs.php/comment-page-1#comment-21440 Rodney Sat, 29 Mar 2008 00:43:00 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/06/a-tale-of-two-conversations-and-mrs-thatcher.php#comment-21440 I have heard a very different description of Thatcher's speach patterns - thay they were deliberate. Whilst she was often interrupted, these interruptions did not often hold. what she did was to take her breaths (and therefore pauses) in the middle of sentences, rather than at the end. this allowed her to continue what she was saying and run sentences together without leaving a pause where it would seem more natural to interrupt! I have heard a very different description of Thatcher's speach patterns - thay they were deliberate. Whilst she was often interrupted, these interruptions did not often hold. what she did was to take her breaths (and therefore pauses) in the middle of sentences, rather than at the end. this allowed her to continue what she was saying and run sentences together without leaving a pause where it would seem more natural to interrupt!

]]> By: Jeremy (PsyBlog author) http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/06/tale-of-two-conversations-and-mrs.php/comment-page-1#comment-20076 Jeremy (PsyBlog author) Fri, 29 Jun 2007 10:50:00 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/06/a-tale-of-two-conversations-and-mrs-thatcher.php#comment-20076 Thanks for your comments Anonymous and ganesh. There's no doubt conversation is a very complicated phenomenon. Thanks for your comments Anonymous and ganesh. There's no doubt conversation is a very complicated phenomenon.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/06/tale-of-two-conversations-and-mrs.php/comment-page-1#comment-20074 Anonymous Fri, 29 Jun 2007 05:37:00 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/06/a-tale-of-two-conversations-and-mrs-thatcher.php#comment-20074 i have this predicament too. i always think 'ok it is my turn to speak' but as i start, i feel i am cutting the other person off. so i started waiting patiently for the other person to come to a conclusion 'so, we should do this blah blah', before i speak up and convey my thoughts. but i don't know whether i cut off the other person often appearing impatient or whether it is a normal conversation. (it is a different matter that i try to convey too much in a short time lest i forget to mention any of my points/opinions)<br /><br />~ganesh i have this predicament too. i always think 'ok it is my turn to speak' but as i start, i feel i am cutting the other person off. so i started waiting patiently for the other person to come to a conclusion 'so, we should do this blah blah', before i speak up and convey my thoughts. but i don't know whether i cut off the other person often appearing impatient or whether it is a normal conversation. (it is a different matter that i try to convey too much in a short time lest i forget to mention any of my points/opinions)

~ganesh

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/06/tale-of-two-conversations-and-mrs.php/comment-page-1#comment-20070 Anonymous Wed, 27 Jun 2007 21:24:00 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/06/a-tale-of-two-conversations-and-mrs-thatcher.php#comment-20070 Great post! I have noticed similar things in conversations and figured it was a function of how much empathy there is between people. If someone is really "getting" you, they don't misread your cues as often, and you're less likely to give off false cues as a result of moments of anxiety (those times when you're not sure if your partner is understanding, or you start worrying about saying the wrong thing etc.). I have found the most awkward conversations are when the participants aren't sure where they stand with the other, and are negotiating for position, rather than communicating. In a business setting with larger numbers of people this dynamic even more complicated and might explain why in many organizations meetings are so unproductive. Great post! I have noticed similar things in conversations and figured it was a function of how much empathy there is between people. If someone is really "getting" you, they don't misread your cues as often, and you're less likely to give off false cues as a result of moments of anxiety (those times when you're not sure if your partner is understanding, or you start worrying about saying the wrong thing etc.). I have found the most awkward conversations are when the participants aren't sure where they stand with the other, and are negotiating for position, rather than communicating. In a business setting with larger numbers of people this dynamic even more complicated and might explain why in many organizations meetings are so unproductive.

]]> By: Adfero Affero http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/06/tale-of-two-conversations-and-mrs.php/comment-page-1#comment-20068 Adfero Affero Tue, 26 Jun 2007 09:35:00 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/06/a-tale-of-two-conversations-and-mrs-thatcher.php#comment-20068 Why do use 'we were sat' instead of [..] sitting? Why do use 'we were sat' instead of [..] sitting?

]]> By: Jeremy (PsyBlog author) http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/06/tale-of-two-conversations-and-mrs.php/comment-page-1#comment-20067 Jeremy (PsyBlog author) Tue, 26 Jun 2007 08:02:00 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/06/a-tale-of-two-conversations-and-mrs-thatcher.php#comment-20067 Thank you Francisco, I appreciate you taking the time to comment. Thank you Francisco, I appreciate you taking the time to comment.

]]> By: Francisco Arévalo http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/06/tale-of-two-conversations-and-mrs.php/comment-page-1#comment-20060 Francisco Arévalo Tue, 26 Jun 2007 03:24:00 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/06/a-tale-of-two-conversations-and-mrs-thatcher.php#comment-20060 Loved the post!<br /><br />Perhaps reading this is like making someone aware of his breathing... Once you start noticing the tiny gestures that signal cadence in conversation, it may be difficult to go back!<br /><br />Keep up the good work, always bringing interesting subjects up for debate.<br /><br />FA Loved the post!

Perhaps reading this is like making someone aware of his breathing... Once you start noticing the tiny gestures that signal cadence in conversation, it may be difficult to go back!

Keep up the good work, always bringing interesting subjects up for debate.

FA

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