Comments on: Getting Closer: The Art of Self-Disclosure http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-art-of-self-disclosure.php Understand your mind with the science of psychology - Mon, 04 May 2009 10:30:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Marie http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-art-of-self-disclosure.php/comment-page-1#comment-23290 Marie Sat, 21 Mar 2009 05:04:14 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-the-art-of-self-disclosure.php#comment-23290 you have a nice paper.. keep it up!! you have a nice paper.. keep it up!!

]]> By: Anon http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-art-of-self-disclosure.php/comment-page-1#comment-23141 Anon Wed, 11 Mar 2009 21:08:17 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-the-art-of-self-disclosure.php#comment-23141 Nice article, thanks. Nice article, thanks.

]]> By: CricketB http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-art-of-self-disclosure.php/comment-page-1#comment-22066 CricketB Thu, 11 Dec 2008 14:44:00 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-the-art-of-self-disclosure.php#comment-22066 I know several couples who met online first, then married. (And some with permanent engagements.) Most met in a hobby group, not online dating. You need to be careful, yes, but it can work.<br /><br />It's easy to share with an anonymous box, and the urge to share is very strong. They listen and reply. You have a new best friend! But you don't see that they're just being polite to you while they're multi-tasking -- there's no body language. It took me a while to figure that out. I know several couples who met online first, then married. (And some with permanent engagements.) Most met in a hobby group, not online dating. You need to be careful, yes, but it can work.

It's easy to share with an anonymous box, and the urge to share is very strong. They listen and reply. You have a new best friend! But you don't see that they're just being polite to you while they're multi-tasking -- there's no body language. It took me a while to figure that out.

]]> By: LusakaOnline http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-art-of-self-disclosure.php/comment-page-1#comment-22039 LusakaOnline Thu, 27 Nov 2008 15:26:00 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-the-art-of-self-disclosure.php#comment-22039 I don't think that's the case at all. People disclose more to people they do NOT know.<br /><br />You can tell more to a person you do not know than the one you know.<br /><br />Which explains why an American doing research in India would come out with better results than an Indian doing it among there fellow Indians.<br /><br />Chances someone you know may spill confidential information to those around you are high, which is never the case with most strangers<br /><br />Cheers,<br /><br />MM I don't think that's the case at all. People disclose more to people they do NOT know.

You can tell more to a person you do not know than the one you know.

Which explains why an American doing research in India would come out with better results than an Indian doing it among there fellow Indians.

Chances someone you know may spill confidential information to those around you are high, which is never the case with most strangers

Cheers,

MM

]]> By: BeeSA http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-art-of-self-disclosure.php/comment-page-1#comment-21715 BeeSA Sat, 19 Jul 2008 15:24:00 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-the-art-of-self-disclosure.php#comment-21715 Excellent article. Unfotunately, dating sites are becoming popular hunting grounds for people with unethical agendas. Anyone using interactive/meeting type websites these days would be doing themselves a favour by learning about internet predators. The net is beautifully designed for them and trawlling the profiles of the lonely hearts is like shooting fish in a barrel! They are very charming, quite intelligent and will seem like your dream come true... but there are red flags that will alert you. Lovefraud.com will give you some alarming insight into the mind of a sociopath. There you can test yourself to see if you're a target, read blogs of hundreds of real life and current experiences ... and the site is run by specialist psychologists. Honestly, stay away from the dating sites if you can, but if you simply must, a little knowledge will prove invaluable. <br /><br />These evil people really DO exist and they really DO use dating sites to find new victims and there really ARE lots of them out there! They are not limited to any race, colour, creed, gender or age. Google 'internet predators' <br /><br />Good luck and beware of cyberpaths. Excellent article. Unfotunately, dating sites are becoming popular hunting grounds for people with unethical agendas. Anyone using interactive/meeting type websites these days would be doing themselves a favour by learning about internet predators. The net is beautifully designed for them and trawlling the profiles of the lonely hearts is like shooting fish in a barrel! They are very charming, quite intelligent and will seem like your dream come true... but there are red flags that will alert you. Lovefraud.com will give you some alarming insight into the mind of a sociopath. There you can test yourself to see if you're a target, read blogs of hundreds of real life and current experiences ... and the site is run by specialist psychologists. Honestly, stay away from the dating sites if you can, but if you simply must, a little knowledge will prove invaluable.

These evil people really DO exist and they really DO use dating sites to find new victims and there really ARE lots of them out there! They are not limited to any race, colour, creed, gender or age. Google 'internet predators'

Good luck and beware of cyberpaths.

]]> By: amadeus http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-art-of-self-disclosure.php/comment-page-1#comment-21484 amadeus Tue, 08 Apr 2008 04:26:00 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-the-art-of-self-disclosure.php#comment-21484 An example of a online self disclosure would be terific. An example of a online self disclosure would be terific.

]]> By: Ashna http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-art-of-self-disclosure.php/comment-page-1#comment-21195 Ashna Sat, 02 Feb 2008 02:44:00 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-the-art-of-self-disclosure.php#comment-21195 very cool very cool

]]> By: chippyneil http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-art-of-self-disclosure.php/comment-page-1#comment-20872 chippyneil Tue, 04 Dec 2007 22:39:00 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-the-art-of-self-disclosure.php#comment-20872 how we weave a tangled web...recently seperated..friends and family have been great but,reading this has opened my eyes.in time you learn what to say and what not to...wish i had found this site earlier!!!thanks to all concerned... how we weave a tangled web...recently seperated..friends and family have been great but,reading this has opened my eyes.in time you learn what to say and what not to...wish i had found this site earlier!!!thanks to all concerned...

]]> By: sunchaser http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-art-of-self-disclosure.php/comment-page-1#comment-20470 sunchaser Thu, 13 Sep 2007 02:48:00 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-the-art-of-self-disclosure.php#comment-20470 Fascinating is right. I never knew that there was a clinical term for the lying that goes on. Sad that being open and honest is the opposite of how people actually practice online dating, but (from my own experience) it does seem to be true to some extent. Fascinating is right. I never knew that there was a clinical term for the lying that goes on. Sad that being open and honest is the opposite of how people actually practice online dating, but (from my own experience) it does seem to be true to some extent.

]]> By: rob http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-art-of-self-disclosure.php/comment-page-1#comment-20370 rob Wed, 22 Aug 2007 17:18:00 +0000 http://spring.org.uk/2007/02/getting-closer-the-art-of-self-disclosure.php#comment-20370 Fascinating.<br /><br />Ive often wondered about those profiles of international jet setters who paint those multi activity pictures of themselves. <br /><br />Ive had all manner of degrees of sucess with online dating, in some ways I attribute this to being how I am in the real world - myself! Fascinating.

Ive often wondered about those profiles of international jet setters who paint those multi activity pictures of themselves.

Ive had all manner of degrees of sucess with online dating, in some ways I attribute this to being how I am in the real world - myself!

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